Just because we’ve had a baby does not mean we have disappeared off the face of the earth and turned into people completely opposite of the person you knew. Yes, things may change, however those changes aren’t supposed to constitute dissolving a friendship or being less of a friend because of our children. So, this blog is addressed to you. Our friends that automatically may assume we’re too busy, too sleepy, or too whatever else to hang out or receive a phone call. Even if it’s unintentional, please start considering that we may in fact need that trip out, or that phone call or text to check in on us. Refer to the list below to see how we really feel.

1. We are too tired or too busy: I won’t front. Yes, we are tired! Yes we are taking care of a whole baby now. However, that does not make me a sleeping zombie that only stays home. As much as we love our babies, we don’t want to stay at home 24/7 and lose ourselves in our kids. Especially if we have help in a husband, a grandparent, or a caring friend who would love to watch the baby while we go have some girl time or friend time. At least ask! Can you imagine how slighted you’d feel if the friends you always hung out with started cancelling you out of plans and then you see them having fun without you?! If you’re thinking, “ouch”, then please stop doing this to your mom friends.

2. No phone call, no text, no check ins: Dang, it’s like that now? CHECK ON YOUR FRIENDS WITH CHILDREN! We need it more than you think. Our lives have drastically changed and postpartum depression is real. You don’t know how much a simple text could help or make our day. Even if we take too long to respond, believe me. We’ll respond.

3. We forgot how to party: No child of mine will ever stop me from having fun! Yes my life has changed, but best believe my sense of party has not. Don’t think we’ll bore you talking about our kids the whole time. Again, mamas need a break too!

4. No kids allowed: Ok, kids can’t come to everything and we don’t expect them to. But please consider the reality that the older we get, the more we find our friends will have children. Hopefully you’ll consider a kid friendly event.

5. We can’t afford the fun: Children cost, there’s no doubt about it. But what you’re not going to do is click my pocketbook, and assume I don’t have the funds to do something. Let me manage my finances and get the chance to make my own decisions.